How To Avoid Transforming Into Bridezilla Before Your Wedding Day
Bridezilla, the elusive, obsessive, and intolerably demanding evil twin of the sweet, endearing bride-to-be. Avoid going to the dark side and win the hearts of your bridal party, and suppliers with our simple go-to guide to staying level headed and on top of your list of tasks in the lead up to your big day.
1. DON’T FORGET TO ACKNOWLEDGE YOUR PARENTS.
Chances are your folks have done a lot for you in the lead up to your wedding. Not only have they raised you to be the woman you are today, but they will also be helping out in the lead-up to your wedding and playing an integral part in your big day. Remember that weddings are a celebration of love and family, so take the time to be thankful to your parents. Take the time to savour special moments with them throughout the planning process and remember to thank them for their suggestions, even if you don't necessarily like the suggestion. Of course, an honourable mention in your thank you speech at the wedding is a must.
2. DO NOT TALK TOO MUCH ABOUT YOUR WEDDING.
One of the bridezilla's biggest downfalls is wanting to talk about her wedding to anyone who will listen. We understand getting married is a big occasion and yes, it will take up a lot of your time and energy but remember to keep the conversation about your wedding brief, even if a friend asks how everything is going. If you have close friends who want to be involved in your wedding day, allocate small tasks that will enable them to feel included. If things aren't going to plan and you need your mum or best friend as a sounding board to vent your frustrations, take them out for dinner or a coffee with no wedding chat to say thank you for their patience and time.
3. DON’T GIVE AWAY ALL THE SURPRISES.
Your wedding day is a celebration for you and your husband-to-be but its also a huge party for your closest family and friends. Keep your guests guessing about what to expect on the wedding day by not sharing all the little exciting details. If your friends or family keep bugging you for pictures of the dress or location just be firm and say “I’m not telling you because I want it to be a surprise, but trust me – you’re going to love it!” If they’re you’re real friends they will let it go.
4. YOUR FIANCE IS JUST AS IMPORTANT AS YOU.
You are marrying the man of your dreams right? Well, make sure in the lead up that he knows this. It’s very easy to get distracted and stressed and forget about why you are getting married. You want your fiancé to be as excited as you are and if he gets forgotten or feels unloved then this can tarnish the wedding day. Take the time to sit with him and discuss your wedding ideas together. To ensure he feels involved in the planning, allocate tasks for him to make decisions on and complete on his own. To relieve some pre-wedding stress book in a series of date nights with your man in the lead up to the big day and make wedding talk a no-go zone.
5. DON’T TRY ANYTHING NEW A WEEK OUT FROM YOUR WEDDING DAY.
Nothing brings Bridezilla out of the closet like a disaster the week before the wedding. It might sound like a great idea to go from a brunette to blonde the week of your wedding or to wax your eyebrows thinner than ever before but these decisions so close to your big day can leave you in a big heap of tissues. The same applies for new skincare routines and treatments and diet regimes. Remember wedding prep starts months in advance and the weeks leading up to your wedding are for finishing touches and staying as relaxed as possible.
As the bride, it is definitely your day and you can do whatever you like. But you have to remember this is just one day. Bad behaviour can stay in people’s memories for many years to come. So before you lose your cool, or get too wrapped up in your wedding, take a deep breath and remember to stay calm and wear your bride-to-be badge with pride.